accepting limitations

How come no bold letters...in the title...this time...Jim...???...

Well...it just is not needed...this time around...

I am...more or less...introducing a subtle reminder...this time...

instead of trying to get you to completely ingest/adapt to some radical concept...

...accepting limitations...(is just my little, simple catch-phrase to hold onto...)

These small two words...are just a very, very powerful...tool...in the Healing World...

...getting you to pull in your reigns...way back....so strong...so hard...

when things are getting out of control...just spinning & spinning out of control...

BOTTOM LINE: In today's extremely hectic, hustle & bustle, chaos...we call, everyday life,

there is a great deal of conflict with understanding...the weight of the world...upon us....

Many accept the challenge to push ahead...but these same people...also refuse...to accept the challenge of bailing out...when the fire gets too hot...or the situation gets too intense...

What do we call this situation....CRASH AND BURN...(BURN...BABY...BURN...)

It is a relentless demon...of sorts...sending you spiral-ling down, down, down...

We all see it happen to others...don't we...???

Just kind & decent folks, like you & me...just hit harder than hard...with trouble beyond their fathomable reason...

I don't know if you realize this...but quite often...those bums on the street...were just like you, when just an undeniably wicked force...pulled them down so deep...that they just gave up...

It is sad....very sad...I can remember passing the bums every day, downtown, in Chicago, as I was trying to hurry along to get to school, (DePaul) walking thru Grant Park...every day...And I can recall rather vividly, that deep, dark stare, those bums had...just a very telling glow of despair...in their eyes...

That deep, dark, glare of despair...just heart-wrenching...conveying the message...to me...to stay on the right path...stay focused...and don't end up like them (the down-trodden misfits of society)...

Sometimes we think power & money are the hallmarks of success...but most of the time...that stuff comes and goes...What we really need to focus on...is acknowledging the pain and suffering around us...and learning from that...

You'd be surprised if you asked that bum to sit next to you...at a diner...for a couple of eggs & coffee...for 99 cents...instead of hurrying on by...That bum...just could just be an older, weaker version of you...

He may just give you some simple thoughts to ponder...ponder on something...taken for granted by you...that really does capture the essence...of what life all boils down to...

And many times...the message is...DON'T END UP LIKE ME..!!!...FOR GOD'S SAKE...KNOW YOUR LIMITATIONS, PULL YOURSELF OUT BEFORE ITS TOO LATE...!!!...AND TRY TO HOLD ON TO THE SIMPLE THINGS WE HOLD DEAR...BEFORE THEY SLIP AWAY...FOREVER...!!!...

That is some quite profound stuff...for just a cup of coffee and a 2 eggs...Here YOU are filling him up with...the strength...to go forth another day...into a harsher existence...

And here, HE in turn. is giving you a glance into his way of life...a stark, shattered life, you never, ever want to see or...and quite obviously...never, ever, experience...either...

AND THAT'S NOT ALL...He is also providing you with some guidance as WISE as any you will receive in your life...And you probably never even asked HIM for his name...

I know you are thinking...How did this meander into a HELPING YOUR FELLOW MAN, speech....when you were gonna pitch us ACCEPTING LIMITATIONS...

THINK ABOUT IT....I KNOW IT'S HARD...THINK SOME MORE...Doesn't opening our heart, to the misfortunate, those downtrodden misfits of society...rip us out of that, hungry surge for success, we are locked into...

Doesn't hearing a story beyond something out of the Tribune, Wall Street Journal or on CNN...that completely shatters all your tendencies to take life for granted...measure a great deal stronger, in your heart, than you ever imagined...???...

I think you are...putting it aaalll together now...Aren't you...???...

O.K....I'll lay it out...flat & easy...

Seeing others LIMITATIONS...VERY, VERY HARSH LIMITATIONS...allows us to come to grips...with our own ability...to take on some limitations...Some LIMITATIONS...we really would never, ever consider...saying...

Damn, I'm gonna swallow some pride and take a step back...!!!...I know it's gonna kill me, to shut it down and go in a different direction...!!!...But hey, I'll come back stronger in a new way, some new way, I don't understand yet, sometime down the line...!!!...

Wow...did you ever think you'd say that...???

Certainly who wouldn't thank our lucky stars...that our limitations...our smaller limitations...we inevitably do accept...still leave us, with a nice roof over our head and some people to love & cherish, when we get back home...once more.....

I'm sorry if you got lost along the way...but that's how life comes at you...too...

It's hard to recognize sometimes, what is being thrown at you...from a direction...you were not expecting...And I'll say....SUCH IS LIFE...

Life holds many things we never, ever grasp...until much later...

I sift thru all my horrifying troubles that hit me hard, unexpectedly...

And it wasn't until I accepted my limitations...not until then, was I able to move forward, towards a brighter tomorrow....with a great deal of respect for those who face similar situations, with a grace and dignity...and a knowing...THAT LIFE...WAS NOT MEANT TO BE FAIR...

And that, my friend, with your whole life ahead of you, is even more reason, to stay in tune, with the...++Healing World++...around us...A...Healing World...that surrounds us and protects us, that nurtures us...and guides us thru our toughest moments...

So, please, take heart, and keep these simple two words...accepting limitations...somewhere in a safe place...They will serve you well...when your painful reality...gets a bit too harsh & complicated...and your unyielding pride...needs a wake-up call...to chill out...!!!...

...Amen...

Laughter for Pain, Laughter for Healing, Laughter Forever

If there is one thing for certain, LAUGHTER carries an enormous wealth of power...in dealing with extreme pain...even the worst of pain...

In looking at many of my excruciating moments of agony & despair, I've always tried to draw upon the power of Laughter...whenever I could...

To feel that sense of happiness...radiate...thru my mind...down to my soul...and outward...beyond, has always gave me a huge lift in confronting my wicked adversary...pain...Some people say Chicken Noodle Soup is the best thing for a cold....well, throw down laughter...as the best medicine for any crazy ills, that come your way...

It alters your mood...it alters your senses...it sends you away from the pain that consumes you, that eats away at you...that rips apart at your insides...Ohhh yes....LAUGHTER...can go in and just pummel away...at all that bad stuff...which had rendered you hopelessly hurting...

LAUGHTER will go to war with you...into the trenches...into areas...no other form of healing can reach...because LAUGHTER does emit that tremendous goodness...that unbelievable joy...that shear awesome relief, just from a belly laugh or two...a heaping helping of happiness...that sends positive shockwaves...into any area of your mind or body...

Wow...it does all that...???

Yes...it surely does...!!!

And it's out there...the LAUGHTER is out there...You just gotta reach out...and grab it...

Only yesterday, I fell upon a funny little video clip on YouTube.com...called THERE'S NO ONE AS IRISH AS BARACK O'BAMA...Just a hilarious little video clip, with a happy, sweet little cheerful melody...that had you singing along...in laughter...watching the antics of our new President dispalyed as a cartoon character...

And then I settled down and watched the movie, BABY MAMA...a joyous little romp about a child-like, empty-headed girl, AMY POEHLER, pregnant, having a baby, for an ultra-business woman, TINA FEY...

To fade off...for 99 minutes...and sink into this hilarious story, that takes you thru the 9 months of this dubious duos, endless silliness, was surely a nice break, from any kind of stress, any kind of pain...that could come your way...

Anybody...can find that tremendous relief from pain...if they can somehow...break free...from its treacherous grip...on our souls...sometime...just by injecting a bit of HUMOR...into our lives.

Just as pain comes in all shapes and sizes....LAUGHTER also, comes in a vast array, of powerful positive, elements...all abound....around us...

Just open up your eyes...!!!...

And truly, some people do possess just a great deal of joyfulness & silliness & happy, happy feelings that always....ring true...in any given situation...That is truly a blessing upon itself, to take that ability...and send it out to others...to blast away...at the anger, the frustration and even the agony....gripping so many lives today...

Laughter, is a gift, you may think is taken, for granted, but it does resonate...throughout...and there is never a shortage of it, needed...

I'm not asking for you to walk around in a clown costume with a red nose and squirt-gun flower. But there are some great things, to be said, to bring laughter to others, and just watch it flourish before your eyes...that is quite magical...and quite profound...

The jokesters, the prankster, the silly-nillies, the classic clowns, the funny, funny people and cosmically clever creations...all keep this world a brighter, brighter place...amidst a world that has way too much negativity...crushing down on so many lives...

So why not...fire up that old funny movie...you love on DVD....???

So why not...read a funny book or catch a funny show on T.V....???

So why not, give someone a call, that doesn't expect it, and bring a ray of happiness and laughter, to somebody who needs a bit...of cheerfulness...right now...!!!...

If you've learned anything from what has been written above...you'll realize we all possess the gift of LAUGHTER...the power of laughter...the immense & intense genuine spirit...of bringing a smile to somebody's face...

You can use it wisely....

Or you can use it with a passion...

Just take this knowledge forward with you...this sense of "Happy Healing" not only to lift the spirit of others...in tremendous pain...but also, take heart, this will always leave YOU feeling good about yourself, as well....

...LAUGHTER FOR PAIN...

...LAUGHTER FOR HEALING...

...LAUGHTER FOREVER...

...Dealing With Pain...

What is probably one of the most daunting tasks...we ever face in our lives...???...

...DEALING WITH PAIN...especially extreme pain...

I can tell you right now...unless you are living inside a bubble...in a wondrous dream-land of sorts...it is inevitable...that PAIN comes your way...and tries to pull you down, away from everything, away from the things we love, the people we trust, the sensibilities...that we always held true...

Pain...just shoves all that stuff...out your door...and takes over...settling into your brain...sometimes with a relentless intensity...completely beyond our ability to comprehend...

And pain...comes in many shapes & sizes...both physically & mentally...an unyielding force...that often leaves us...in quiet desperation, total despair...or EVEN loudly screaming...bloody murder...

How can you DEAL with this scary stuff...???...

...DEAL WITH SUCH A TREMENDOUSLY WICKED & HORRIFIC FORCE...???...

Plain and Simple...It's not easy...!!!...Not at all...Not one single bit...

...REMEMBER THOUGH...

...NOTHING IN LIFE COMES EASY...THAT IS WORTH FIGHTING FOR...

And there are some GREAT measures you can take...almost a path, of sorts...to try guide you out of this ungodly world of pain...and get you onto more stable ground...where you can HEAL much better...and maybe even quicker...than you think...

First...ask yourself...is there anybody who has overcome a similar pain...and how did they do it?

Utilize the Internet...that's what it's there for...Look things up...research and research and get a whole bunch of people to research...a way to approach your pain...the best way...possible...

Then, take that info...and formulate a game plan...by going to certain doctors...taking certain drugs...anything that enables you to literally taking a better hold & understanding ...of the situation...

Re-gain some of that confidence that PAIN has taken away...from you...Re-establish...your strengths, your determination...that all is not lost...nor will it ever be lost...

Establishing HOPE is the key...HOPE is truly something to hold onto...HOPE may come tomorrow...but it grows stronger & stronger a little bit with you every single day...if you let it...Don't ever let that beautiful inner sense of HOPE dissipate or disappear...

Whether you meditate or pray or just try to relax...just try to envision the world of happiness you seek...Cling to those hopes...Cling to those wishes...Cling to those positive things ahead...

Also...try to understand...that pain can, as time rolls on, be eventually, beyond overwhelming, and sharing your true feelings...about what is happening...right then, at that moment...to someone who truly cares...is always a very good step...to unlock those strangling demons...of pain...that are closing in on you...

Don't be afraid...that you are afraid...that you are absolutely terrified...that you are losing your common senses that usually used to serve you so well....

Unfortunately...we have to shut it all down and become realistic...We all have a great deal of PRIDE...a great deal of wanting to hide one's shame...of wallowing in the sadness, the deep depression, and the severe anxieties...we are stricken with...rather than admit our weaknesses to others...It's a very, very tough, paralyzing ordeal...that may be sinking in...further on you...

Somebody's gotta come in...and knock all that crap...completely...out of your mind...!!!...

And get you up, right back up, up on the right track...Lift you up & dust you off...and give you some HOPE...Call in the cavalry...round the old chuckwagons...and load you up on ammo...!!!...

We are going to war...!!!...

Right then and there...Accept the PAIN...as a challenge...a mighty challenge to overcome...a challenge like no other...Shaking yourself loose from a downward spiral, and just gaining a bit more courage...for the rocky road ahead..

For me personally...I had to actually accept the PAIN...as my friend...I knew it was gonna be there and it wasn't gonna go away...anytime soon...I had to find new ways....almost a new life...of generating a positive spirit...in new ways...finding the joys in life...I never knew existed...

After all, The PAIN may just suddenly goes away.....just washes out of your mind...and just drift off into the sunset...drifting and drifting and drifting away in a glorious fog that fades into the past...

...And that may be one of the greatest days of your life...and you may not even realize that, ever!

But, maybe, at that point...incredibly, you may realize...you have gained a great wealth of knowledge...about yourself...by surviving the very worst, the most extreme hardship...life could offer you...

...See...

...HEALING...is not just a word...it's our way...of confronting the bad things in life....and enabling a process...to flow forth...that changes the dimensions of evils & pains & difficulties...afflicting us...which have no place...in being prominent factors...in our lives...

As we try...to help...one another along...somehow, someway, in acheiving an inner peace...and an outer love...for everything that surrounds us...(...far away from the pain...and far away from the struggles...)

...GOOD LUCK...

Breaking thru The Fear...

Ohhh Gossssh...I knew I had my work cut out for me...taking on this topic...My, my, my...

It is a bit of a dubious challenge to raise the bright, blinding WHITE FLAG of HEALING...for one and all, to look up and drink in, maybe even salute that collosal "Healing Flag" that waivers way, way, way up high, into the sky...

For that also leaves us stunned a bit, left to ponder all the important elements, we may need to draw from our memory...when HEALING becomes a forefront issue...in our lives....

Because, right at that moment, when some kind of dire emergency arises, nothing would be better than to grab ahold & lock in on our "Healing Powers". That would help us immensely, wouldn't it...???

Throwing caution to the wind and truly putting forth our best effort, almost a rally call of sorts...

...Shouting out...!!!

"When the going gets tough...the tough get going...."

Just focusing all of our energies & intelligence & emotions into one collective stream of thought, that penetrates...outwardly...right at its intended target.

But only a few can soak up this concept of throwing out much needed prayers or massive cosmic vibes or large dose of grace & intuition, letting their real feelings show, in a moment of crisis or despair.

These really raw feelings are probably the strongest medicine we have...

Why not immediately project them...with a tremendous force???

Why be so embarrassed...???...about this...???

I don't know why...??? I've seen it work for me...!!!

Are we too cool or too stupid or a little bit of both...???

It seems awfully clear, without a strong persuasive determination & some outside centrifical force of nature, radiating down into our soul, most people have a tendency to give up.

Losing that great opportunity, of making things happen, making an impact, making at least a little headway/difference towards alleviating the extreme situation...at hand.

We're just a bunch of silly cupcakes, we all are, for not trying HARDER...!!!

Coming up way short, of utilizing our potential, losing out on an opportunity to perhaps bust up any negative auras, any kind of negative elements, spreading like wildfire at that moment.

Instead, there we are, looking all around, waiting for someone else, to look like a fool.

Do you really think you look cool-just shrugging your shoulders-tossing your hands in the air & giving up...???

Why not, dig in deep, instill a bit of anger in accepting the challenge, at hand, rolling up your sleeves, and making a courageous move, to shed your restless fears of not looking cool.

Standing tall and just, flat-out, praying with a ferocity, .meditating with an intense vision, and summoning every possible positive thing you can think of.

Channeling it, as hard as you can, focusing more and more, and more and more, and never, ever, letting up...!!!

Quite Frankly...What have you got to lose...???

I'm sure my insights into this matter are sentiments shared by many experts and those who truly believe...

We're all just drawing upon simple truths and simple logics...to draw us, together, out of the darkness.

Carrying us on, further and further, incredibly, into a light...as bright as any.

And keeping us there, safely, incredibly and amazingly, each and every day.

After all...someone's gotta be in your corner, at all times, don't they...???

Knocking down the obstacles, pushing away the caving walls surrounding us, and dislodging even, our distant fears, of anything like this, ever happening again.

Just think...there we will be, all-together, cooking up some super, duper healing vibes with an extra, double dose, of hot sauce.

Humbly accepting the challenge, providing a support & special, never-ending love...wherever this globe spins us....The FEAR must be shattered...and it must be defeated...

Hold onto....this...extra tight...and let it guide you thru...your tougher times...because times will get tough...you know it...

And surely knowing this...hopefully will inspire you, to step up & never be afraid of the FEAR inside us all...for the rest of your lives...

Healing You...Healing Me...

HEALING...the word itself, holds a special meaning to us all...for so many reasons...

See, healing is a process, its an awareness, its a special power...and its a saving grace...

Healing essentially floats out into a special world...where others dwell...in a sea of beauty...where peace and tranquility...surround us...and make us realize how fortunate...we really are...

See, healing holds that special place in my heart...so special that I feel a responsibility...to go forward...and shine a light on healing...from my perspective...that others may have missed...

I know I have had a tremendous amount of pain thrust into my body, time and again...just a relentlessly wicked amount of pain...that words cannot describe...and I know many of you, feel the same...

But what we all do know...is that we try to tough it out...just hunkering down...and gutting it out, from intensities, shades and furries of torment and anguish...so unbearable, to endure...just hoping for that moment of relief...to spry us loose...from the grips of trauma and agony...into the realm of calm...stable waters and clear skies, of harmony and of humor, even, where our spirits, soar, so, so high...from being lifted out of that horrifying grind...

And with this in mind...once we acheive that ability to soar out of the darkness, we wish to share our knowledge, our passion, and our understanding by helping others, with this special blessing, of improving the human dimension...of others...near and far, people we know and people we don't know...with a mysterious and mystical power, we all possess...deep down inside...

Not many will boast or claim...having any healing abilities...for it seems to be a rare quality, that is somewhat mystifying to most...All of us say...I don't have any healing powers...What are you talking about...???...

But deep down, we all privately muster up the courage to pray, reflect, immerse our thoughts towards others, with that special intention, of making them soar out of that darkness...

I know you can...Just feel my love...my heart...and my soul...and my special knowledge...to sprout this certain emotional touch that filters across the dimensions of time and space to you...that person...who you so deeply, feel can be incredibly helped...maybe...just maybe...this one...one...special time...

After all, we all would feel hopeless, if we saw someone...we knew...slipping away...into the darkness...away from the light...and there was not one damn thing we could do...but watch them writhe & twist in ungodly pain.

We want to grab ahold of their pain...and just shake it loose...blast it out...tear it to pieces or just let it melt away...but, for God's sake...I'm not gonna just sit here...and not try something...

I've done it before and I'll do it again...is our resolute plea...we tell ourselves...under such dire circumstances...

Whether you are in the medical field where you can apply the wealth of medical sciences to release these ominous shackles which paralyze the human condition or just a mother who sees their child in any kind of discomfort...

Either way...the solemn vow...to bring about some kind of healing is tantamount to our desires...

AND THAT'S WHERE MY TITLE COMES IN...HEALING YOU...HEALING ME...

See...It is a powerful emotion too see someone lifted from out of the deep, distant darkness...and back where they belong...along-side you, enjoying the laughter, the love, the happiness and the special place...where nothing will ever, ever, will hurt them or you again...

Thus, enriching both of our simple souls...

...Me Healing You...

....You Healing Me...